The Only Thing Certain in Life, is Death

At twenty something years old, you generally expect to be wondering which of your friends is going to get married next or have a baby next (which is happening) but you generally don’t expect to wonder which of your friends is going to die next. That’s something you shouldn’t have to worry about for at least another forty years.  Unfortunately that doesn’t seem to be the case anymore.

Almost two years ago now, a friend of mine lost her battle with cancer. About six months ago, my roomate suddenly took ill and passed after a couple weeks.  A couple days ago, a friend of mine decided to take his own life.  They say these things happen in threes, but how do you judge where it begins and ends?  And while I recognize that some of my friends are more “high-risk” than others due to their risky lifestyles or health issues or metal status, but the fact is- any of us could walk in the street and get hit by a bus today.  There are only two things for certain in life, and taxes are even iffy- but death is really just another fact of life.

We fear and cry over death, but who are we really crying for.  If you believe in Heaven or the afterlife, then you should believe the departed is in “a better place”.  Even if you believe that nothing happens when you die, you can take comfort in knowing that the deceased is no longer suffering from whatever ailment ended their life.  Once you’re dead, you don’t really know what you’re missing out on, so you can’t be upset over being dead.  So really we’re crying over our loss of that person.  We’re crying for ourselves, for the family and friends.  And there’s not anything wrong with that.  But regardless of what you believe happens after life here on Earth, it has to be better than suffering here.  It’s a small consolation.

And in the balance of all things on Earth, for every death there brings new life.  Or even more than one new life.  And if you believe in reincarnation, maybe you could see your loved one in a new shining face.  It could be a second chance.  Or you could meet them in again in “Heaven” if that’s what you believe.  Or you could be with them again in the dirt that grows all the living things.  Even if you believe in no form of afterlife, your matter is going to eventually fuel the growth of other things around you, essentially always keeping your “essence” on this Earth.


1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Jen
    Aug 27, 2010 @ 12:42:52

    While it doesn’t really take the edge off of pain of loss… that’s a beautiful way to think of it.


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