A Word of Advice to the Boys

Men are always complaining about “not understanding” women.  Hell, I hardly understand them, that’s why most of my friends are guys!  But I have two really big pet peeves when it comes to guys, and both deal with communication and honesty.

So boys, listen up:

1) If you are dating a girl and after a few dates or whatever, you are not feeling it, then politely tell her so.  Don’t just fall off the face of the earth (something my best friend has termed as “skytracking”).  It’s sounds cliche (“It’s not you, it’s me”) but if you don’t tell her she will automatically assume that it’s her.  Girls are just dumb that way.  If you’re too chicken shit to tell her in person or call her, at least send it to her in a text or email.

2)Don’t pull the other cliche “I hope we can still be friends”.  It might seem to ease the pain at the time, but usually causes more pain over the long run.  It’s not to say that you can’t be friends, I have dated some of my best friends.  But if you have no intention of actually being a friend to her (even if all it means is shooting her a message to check in once in a while, or commenting on her Facebook wall or post) then don’t say you want to still be friends.  Better to politely tell her you’re not feeling it and THEN fall off the face of the earth.  Unless she’s a crazy stalker chick, then I don’t know what to tell you except “B**ches be crazy, yo!”

Karma’s a B**ch

Let me preface this my saying that my work has been really short staffed the past month or so because they fired a bunch of people for bull shit reasons (always seems to happen this time of year).  So now, those of us left have been worked into the ground and are therefore all sick, leaving them with no one to work.  But this is not the point of this post.

This weekend is the weekend before Valentine’s day (a holiday which has no significance for me ever, but does for a lot of my coworkers).  Apparently, people have a lot of plans in the next few days, but are hindered by having to work.  I woke up this morning feeling bad that a coworker called me in desperation to work for them tonight because their girlfriend surprised them by coming into town from up north.  I even considered missing my friend’s birthday party (which they are counting on me to bring part of the dinner for) because I love a good love story and I felt bad.

Then I realized that I don’t have enough hours (God forbid we get overtime) to work for any of these people.  And why is that?  Because none of them would work the other night when I begged people to so that I wouldn’t be stuck working almost 30 hours in two days.  I am sick and hitting overtime.  So now I feel less bad.  Karma’s a b**ch!

#karmasabitch

#OverWorkedUnderPaid

#PlanAhead

P.S.  Pretty sure Karma for this post will come back to kick me in the arse fairly soon!

 

Music Choice

I’ve been contemplating for weeks choices on music preferences and when we actually become conscious of them.  For the past few years, I had been listening to mostly country music, which was a bit of a change from my alternative rock days and my pop princess days before that.  Letely, however, I have been listening more and more to the “Adult Contemporary” stations, which is, I suppose, a combination of bubblegum pop and alternative rock with perhaps a little bit a dancey rap thrown in.  I started wondering why these changes occur?  Is it because of who we hang out with at the time?  Or what we do?  Or is it really just an evolution of who we are?  All of these things boiled down to one thing:  What made me consciously change my music preferences?

When I was a kid, I mostly listened to Oldies.  I listened to the likes of Elvis and the Beach Boys and other pop-rock icons from the 50s and 60s.  I remember going for an MRI when I was 8 and the technician asked what radio station I would like on the headphones, I said U92 (the oldies station at the time) and they were kind of surprised.  This was the only music I really knew, it was what my parents listened to and what we sang in the chorus performance at school.

Then came the 1997 Nickelodeon Big Help A Thon.  Even as a kid, I was a hippie, so of course loved the Big Help concept.  This specific performance, however, introduced me to what are still my two favorite bands today: Sister Hazel and Barenaked Ladies.  And I remember when they were first announced to take the stage I thought they were both girl bands!  So began my everlasting love of 90s pop rock.  (Shortly after this I got my first CD: No Doubt’s Tragic Kingdom).

In 1998, all my girl friends were obsessed with the Backstreet Boys and NSync.  Having always considered myself a “rocker”, I refused to buy into it.  That is, until I saw NSync performing at EPCOT for the Very Merry Christmas Parade.  It was a small gathering of around 60 people around a small stage that we happened to be there on a field trip during.  And I was hooked.   A few months later I saw the Backstreet Boys at what was my first real concert ever, and the next year some friends and I even made a video to try and meet NSync on MTV’s Fanatic.  I was, I will admit, a teeny bopper.

Throughout most of high school I secretly stayed a teeny bopper listening to boy and girl pop bands as they faded into history while all of my friends were “discovering” bands like the Smashing Pumpkins and Radiohead.

Then I went to a small preppy college in Georgia.  Here, my pop princess side was squashed and I was forced to listen to the likes of Dave Matthews Band (which I still never really got into) and was introduced to country (a love which lay mostly dormant until about 10 years later when I started line dancing).

So while every chapter in my life I am changing and expanding my musical tastes, I will probably always come back to those bands I saw while I was still so young and impressionable.  Maybe it’s because they take us back to a less complicated time in our lives.  Maybe it’s because they really do write great timeless music.  Maybe it’s because some bands know how to evolve with us.  Whatever it is, I bet everyone, regardless of how many different genres of music they listen to, has that one moment in their life when they legitimately became aware of music as more than just a noise in the background.  I’d love to hear your moments!

 

Things to Do Before I Leave

Part of this blog is about the crazy random happenstances that have made up my life the past few years.  Part of that, has been a Bucket List (even though most of the awesome things I have done were not originally on said list).  One of the most awesome things to happen to me has been to get a new job… on a cruise ship.  So while I realize it may be years, or never, before I do most of the things on my Bucket List, I have made a mini list of the things I would like to do, or do once more,  before I leave in April.  So, here is that list:

  1. Gasparilla Parade
  2. Go to Mardi Gras at Universal
  3. Bands, Brews, and BBQ at Busch Gardens/SeaWorld
  4. Go to MOSI
  5. Go to Florida Aquarium
  6. Renn Fest
  7. Go line dancing in Orlando (Cowboy’s, Country Castle, or something)
  8. Go to Renegade’s (WPB)
  9. Go to the Fair or Strawberry Festival
  10. Go to the beach (hey, I’ll be in Alaska for 4 months!)
  11. Visit all my favorite bars/clubs at least once more (Dallas Bull, Round Up, Castle, Zendah Grotto, MacDinton’s)—- This will probably take place in my “going away party week” lol!

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